TOXIC BOSSES
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Like Hilling, Kolb sees the value of
having someone to talk to when the
going gets tough. “There is strength in
numbers. Confiding in someone who
‘gets it’ can be healthy and helps to relieve
stress if it is used as a coaching opportunity to help the situation,” she says.
Bordeaux-Johlfs, however, cautions
from falling into the gossip trap. “It is a
great feeling to work somewhere where
you have each other’s back. But be
careful to not create your own toxic
environment by participating in a daily
rumor mill about your superior. As the
saying goes: ‘You can either be part of
the solution or part of the problem,’”
she warns.
When dealing with close-minded
bosses whose idea of leadership is “my
way or the highway,” Kolb says there’s
always the option to provide a toxic
boss a candid feedback. “That does
come with some anxiousness or sense
of fear. Know that it takes courage to
make change,” she says.
What you shouldn’t do, however, is
stab your boss’ back. “It is only a
reflection on you and does not do
anything to change the situation. If you
have tried unsuccessfully, then there are
proper channels to help, such as your
Human Resources specialist. Use your
resources; use your tongue as a tool, not
a weapon,” she says.
Hilling says it’s also important to
understand the boss’ mentality to help
you determine the be